I heard recently that there is one common trait in some of the most successful people; they aren't afraid to dream big. I am that person that always bursts that big dreamer's bubble, pointing out the flawed thinking, logistical problems or unrealistic ideals. I have a brain that always points me in the direction of the most logical solution with minimal risk. This quality has brought me praise in my profession as it allows me to see efficiencies and become detail oriented; but how many times have I talked myself out of pursuing a dream because I am only dreaming the reasonably sized, guaranteed return dream?
Tonight we went to a lovely dinner with Chris (our friend hoping to receive Kelly's kidney soon) and his wife. The level of gratitude exuding from the two of them is visible to just about anyone. I have been cautiously taking these first steps with Kelly as he went through the matching process, I was always preparing myself for disappointment as my back up plan. It almost felt like the hesitancy that a young couple has right after finding out they are expecting a baby. The desire to yell from the roof tops the great news is overwhelming yet they are selective about if and when they begin to tell people in their lives of their news. I wanted everyone to know how wonderful he was for doing this for Chris but the fear surrounding the idea that it may not happen, that it may not work seemed to stop me dead in my tracks. Kelly mentioned that he felt something similar. He was afraid to let people in on his plan to save Chris' life for the fear that after all the build up it wouldn't work.
It wasn't until then that I realized two things:
- If Kelly isn't able to donate his kidney it will be for a reason that is out of his control
- I need to dream big
I am always preparing for the other shoe to drop; for that little hope and dream that I put out there to fail. This is a story that deserves to be told simply because it is extraordinary selflessness. So I want to tell it, to show the good that people are capable of. I know that there is nothing that is within Kelly's control will prevent him from moving forward with this and that is noble enough to deserve a front page story. (or a million Facebook shares since this is 2017)
I am also sure that when Chris started his campaign to find a living donor for a kidney it was his attempt at dreaming big. It would have been easy for him to convince himself that no one would be willing to do this, or that the odds were too great. Against all those odds, he dared to dream of a life without spending hours three times a week at dialysis. The least I can do is to honor that dream with the same level of commitment to see the dream come true.
I am learning so much through this experience and the example these two men have been to me in my life and my own personal journey. As I continue my support of their big dream, I plan on pursuing my own big dream. The last time I set out to accomplish something extraordinary for myself I was able to enter recovery from my eating disorder, and that was a life-saving dream as well.
Stay with me as I begin to answer the following questions:
What is my next big dream?
What is my first step I have to take to make this dream a reality?
How do I get support for this dream?
How would my life change if I was to pursue the dream?
Maybe it will inspire you to pursue your big dream?