You know when you were in school and you teachers would warn you about peer pressure and making good decisions about the friends that you choose? And your parents tried to encourage you to create friendships that would be positive and have good influences? Well, I didn't listen. I often found myself in the company of people who didn't support me.
Part of my journey on the road to achieving my big dream will be identifying and surrounding myself with people who will build me up, those who believe in me, show me they do in their words and actions. I have been making some big changes in my life in order to make room for the growth that I know is within me. I have been very blessed in my life but it has been placed on my heart to work towards more. These changes don't come easy. Honestly, it has been very stressful. I have been reminded that I need to have faith. As a part of this change means welcoming new people into my life and allowing myself to be vulnerable. That's tough. It also means removing people from my life who aren't building me up and being a supporter.
I have been thinking about my big dream for awhile now, but I haven't opened up to many regarding it. I was debating a difficult decision in my life recently and opened up to someone about it and was absolutely shocked by the response I got. I received no support. Immediately following this my thoughts went something like this:
- My idea is stupid
- I can't do it, why did I think I could?
- I should never have told anyone.
Then I paused and my response changed
- This is my idea
- I can achieve anything I set my mind to
- I don't need those who don't support me in my life
As I stated before part of my story includes a long list people who told me I was worthless, I couldn't achieve big things, or I wasn't good enough. For far too long I believed their words. At one point I had that "ah-ha" moment where I finally opened my mind to the possibility that maybe those people are wrong? I always took their word as gold. I never thought twice about those negative words I accepted them as truth. Until I didn't. It seems simple but it was a profound eye opening moment for me. So, now I can pause and remove those words from my thought process. That pause also allows me time to evaluate the value on I put on this person in my life. Part of that formula for successful people that I spoke about in my previous post, is not just having that big dream but also building a great network of people. I have the ability to remove the power from people and give them power by the position I give them in my network.
What position do you give the people in your network?
Do you need to re-evaluate any roles a person(s) has in your circle?
Find the positivity and magnify it in your life!